Nearly every woman will say admit that the biggest factor in instant attraction to a man is his self confidence. Shy, unassuming men are often looked over for dates, friendships, relationships and even job promotions. Having confidence in yourself is a way to show to the world that you are an interesting, confident man, with something valuable to offer potential mates. If you want to improve your existing level of self confidence, these suggestions will help you to be more confident, outgoing and assertive.
Show Your Passions: Many men avoid talking to others about things that interest them most, as they don’t believe their hobbies are cool or fascinating enough to discuss. Even if your passion is something that a woman might not relate to, showing something that you have passion is a great way to show them how passionate you might be in other areas as well. Plus, when you speak about a subject you are familiar with, you will have plenty to say, which can in turn boost your confidence. Be careful not to bore someone however, and talk just enough about your interest to have a woman ready to ask more.
Think About Your Great Qualities: If you walk into a party thinking about how awkward the evening will be, or perhaps how unattractive you look, the night is doomed to fail. Instead, spend 2 minutes before a meeting, date or party thinking about your best qualities. Remind yourself that you have a successful career, have a close relationship with your family, or recently ran your best time in a local road race. Whatever it is that you are proud of, think about it. Having a positive thought in your head can transform your night into one where you are feeling confident and assured.
Practice Socializing With Everyone: Some men who lack self confidence around women avoid them in most social situations, and then wonder why their dates are unsuccessful. The truth it that practice makes perfect, so the more you socialize with women, the more comfortable you will become in those situations. Start small, by saying hello to the woman in the elevator, or perhaps strike up a conversation with the waitress in your lunchtime restaurant. These encounters are unlikely to fail as they are quite small actions, but they will add up and boost your confidence for the moments that matter, like asking out a woman for a date.
Become Socially Active: If you spend your days shuttling yourself back and forth between work and home, rarely enjoying any social activities, that might be the problem causing your lack of self confidence. Try to branch out and explore new social activities. Don’t pressure yourself into doing something that you won’t enjoy, but find a sport, club or event that surrounds you with both genders, and that you truly enjoy.
Force Yourself to Say Hello: The best way to gain confidence around women is simply to practice speaking to them. Spend an afternoon in a mall, or an evening in a bar, and force yourself to say something to at least 10 women. There is no need to deliver pick up lines or even attempt to ask these women on a date. Just say a polite hello, or maybe ask them how their evening is going, or what they have planned for the weekend. The simple act of a successful conversation will be enough to make you feel more confident in your day to day dealings with women.
Overall, the most important part of gaining self confidence around women is by getting over your fears of rejection or isolation. There are millions of women who you have the opportunity to meet, and not every one will be attracted to you. Don’t let that discourage you! You won’t need millions of women to have a successful relationship – just one. Do your best to involve yourself in activities that you fell proud of, and remember that your passions are attractive to others. With practice you can enter a room and no longer feel uncomfortable, but instead begin chatting with women who will be attracted to your confidence.