It seems like such a simple thing to walk up to a girl and strike up a conversation, but really, it’s not. But just why is it so hard? That’s easy, men are afraid to approach women because they are afraid of rejection. Therefore, the first thing you need to do is learn some techniques to overcome you fear of rejection.
One way to do this is to take a moment when you are by yourself and in a quiet place and visualize the worst possible rejection you can imagine. Picture yourself being slapped by the woman and then having her boyfriend come beat you to the ground, then you get arrested for disorderly conduct and end up in jail with a big, creepy guy. Therefore, whatever your worst-case scenario is, take a few minutes to imagine it.
Experience how your body feels thinking about this horrible situation. OK. Now that’s over with. Guaranteed it won’t be that bad. Any time you are about to approach girls, remember there is no possible way it can be as bad as you imagined it and anything less than that should be a cinch to handle.
Now, I want you to try a little exercise that has worked wonders for me and my friends. I want you to go out to whatever venue where you like to approach girls: at the club, at the bar, at the coffee shop, at the library or museum – whatever and find a girl you want to meet. So far, so good? Now I want you to walk up to that woman and try to get rejected. Try to say the stupidest things and try to get her to reject you. Do this at least once. The point? You can look at it two ways. You can practice getting rejected until you realize it’s really not that big of a deal or you can try to get rejected on your first approach every night so you get it out of the way and move onto more successful encounters.
Really, the key is to change the way you think about rejection and allow yourself to realize that it really is not scary. In the big scope of things, being rejected is so boring. I mean, people have huge problems with their jobs, with their health, with their families and so on. What’s your problem? Oh, some woman you have never met rejected you? Big deal. You’ve got good problems.
Which brings me to my last point, why on earth would you ever let one person’s opinion of you matter? Why would you let this woman, whom you’ve never met, who could possibly be the dimmest, meanest ugliest person on the inside ever, make a judgment on you? You don’t know her. She doesn’t know you. She does not have enough information about you in a five-minute encounter to truly reject you in an objective way. Therefore, if she is rejecting you that quickly, then you can definitely chock it up to her own problems. Not yours.